Parents who have experienced the assessment process share their stories - click the images below to read these.
I came to Bonner house for an assessment because of my past. My last two children were removed from my care so this was my only chance of being able to go home with my new baby and prove that I could be a good mum. I was scared about going to stay there at first and thought that it would feel like a prison but it really was not that bad at all. The staff were nice when I arrived and helped me to carry all my bags, I had a lot.
I ended up enjoying my time being assessed and attended lots of courses that helped me to understand how to become a better parent. I learnt a lot from the freedom project and how domestic violence affects children. There was also time to attend stay and play sessions with my baby and this was always good fun and different every week. I feel that I am a much better parent now and this is because of the time that I spent at Bonner house, I was always able to ask staff when I was unsure of things and this has helped me to gain confidence in how to be a mum. I now concentrate on my baby and am not influenced by other like I used to be.
Without Bonner house my baby would have been taken away from me and I would not have had the opportunity to be a mum.
If I had to give advice to a parent about to have an assessment I would tell them to concentrate on their baby and not other residents. Remember going home with your baby is all that matters. Also ask staff if you need help they will help and support you.
I enjoyed my Assessment and found the staff to be helpful and supportive during my time at D/L. Things were explained clearly to me and staff showed me the local amenities such as parks and shops that I would be able to use during my stay. I didn’t know what to expect but I gained up to date knowledge in a supportive environment to help me care for my baby. Dudley lodge has good facilities and I always enjoyed spending time in the play room and the garden with my baby.
If I had to offer any advice to someone about to come to Dudley lodge for an Assessment I would tell them to try to listen to the staff because they are here to help. It’s not a criticism and you could learn so much.